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Traditional Marriage Customs Of The Portuguese Community

Like other Melaka minority communities such as Baba Nyonya and Chetti, the Melaka Portuguese marriage also has its own uniqueness that combines two cultures, in this sense namely East and West. This is because the way of life of the Portuguese people was heavily influenced by the local culture while at the same time, they continue to practice the traditions and customs of Portuguese society itself.

In the Melaka Portuguese wedding customs, several stages will take place starting from the custom of merisik or indirect ascertaining, engagement and then the culminating event is the persandingan wedding ceremony.

There have also been certain taboos in the Melaka Portuguese community in the past about marriage, where every marriage has to last until death, meaning couples are not allowed to divorce or marry another while the spouse is still alive. If divorce does happen, the divorced person is not allowed to marry as long as the ex-husband or ex-wife is still alive. In addition, according to religious law, marriage is only valid if solemnised in church. Thus, compliance with religion is important and if the marriage is done in a place other than the church it is considered invalid.

Custom Of Merisik

The first traditional step for a man to find a life partner is to have the merisik custom of indirect ascertaining. This step starts with the man's family sending a representative to the woman's home to find out more about the background and position of the woman to marry. Just like the Malay custom, this merisik practice is also infused with allusions and the reciprocation of pantun poems between the two parties.

However, the custom of merisik among the Melaka Portuguese community is no longer practiced due to lack of interest and the lack of skilled individuals to do carry out the custom. Furthermore, the current generation is free to socialise and can get to know each other in order to choose a life partner if they so wish.

Engagement Ceremony

Upon merisik and it has been known that the woman to be married is not yet betrothed to anyone, then the next custom is to get engaged. In this tradition, a total of 6 to 7 men will visit the woman's family home with several gifts or hantaran including the engagement ring and two bottles of wine.

When the man’s entourage arrives at the women's house, they will exchange pantun poems before entering the house. The poem submitted by the woman’s side has to be answered by the man's group. After entering the house, the man’s family will present the gifts in the form of the hantaran to the woman’s side, then the engagement ring will be placed on the finger of the woman who is to be married. After the engagement ceremony, the guests will be treated to a light meal together.

The Wedding Celebrations

The engagement is usually tied for six months to a year depending on the agreement of both the families. After the engagement period is almost over, they will set the date of the wedding day of the couple-to-be. The groom’s side also would start sending money for expenses to the bride’s side according to the agreed amount.

Wedding celebrations usually take four days, normally Thursday to Sunday. On Thursday the village community will work together to set up the wedding tent and a stage. On Friday night, the bride and groom will be celebrated with liquor and various dishes consisting of fish and vegetables accompanied by singing and dancing performances.

The ceremonial highlight is on Saturday where the bride will be radiantly decked out in white silk kebaya dress and wearing beautiful jewellery. The bridegroom will be attired in a black or white suit, a round hat and a formal bow tie around his neck.

The formal wedding ceremony is almost always held inside the church. This ceremony is performed by a priest witnessed by the parents and close relatives of both parties. After the wedding ceremony, the bride and groom are celebrated in the hall. The bride and groom will be greeted and congratulated by guests with flowers and sprinkles of scented water.

Guests will be treated to traditional cuisines such as devil curry and also liquor while dances such as the Branyo are performed. The wedding party and dances may continue until late night. On Sunday, the bride and groom will visit the houses of relatives of both parties to celebrate and thank relatives who had tirelessly helped throughout the wedding celebrations.

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